Communicating Manners

To communicate who we are by how we eat and drink may be more common then we first realize. The specific way we behave at a dinner table says a lot about who we are and where we come from. In this article I will try to explore this topic with some examples I hope are adequate.

When I was growing up my father made me and my sister hold the fork in the left hand and the knife in the right, we should not speak with food in our mouth open or keep our elbows on the table. My guess is that dad wanted to communicate that we were well-behaved, from a good family, and perhaps also instill some obedience. These are all quite common eating conventions in much of Europe and many of them communicate certain traits.

A great deal of table manners are used to communicate sophistication, education, civilization, respect and a good upbringing. It is perhaps at the dinner table that the new-rich struggles hardest; it is not east to pick the right spoon or to cut that tomato if you had no training. Table manners form an integral part of etiquette which are set rules of politeness and procedure, it is far from only an European idea and is present in many cultures like the Japanese and the Indian. These rules vary between cultures but commonly include the demonstration of respect and proper handling of utensils.

Just like abiding to these sets of dictated rules sends a message so does breaking them. It is no coincidence that teenagers tend to disobey them, much to the contempt of many older family members. Contempt for richer people can be manifested in behaviors that go against the set norms, in Sweden it could perhaps be to eat with only a fork or to drink from a can in a restaurant; to openly and consciously behave in a non-proper way is a sure way to demonstrate aversion to the established order in a society. Just like the choice of clothes can communicate traits such as social standing and political belonging so can table manners.

Drinking beer from a bottle, up until a fee decades ago not so common at all. Photo by Dan Miles.

Drinking beer from a bottle, up until a few decades ago not so common at all. Photo by Dan Miles.

Fashion and trends also plays an integral part, if the rich and the famous are seen whisking out bubbles from sparkling wine it could soon become common practice. If some teenagers in a Hollywood blockbuster share a pizza eating with their hands it can make whole generations do the same. An interesting question is how much films from Hollywood has helped the spread of American fast food and the habit of eating in cars. Since trends are limited in time this also enters an aspect where how we eat change with how old a person is. In Sweden it was common to eat hamburgers with fork and knife until the 1970’s, only in the 2000’s did it really catch on in the northernmost parts of the country.

Eating manners can communicate many other things. To hold and drink from a glass in a certain way can indicate that a person is gay or feminine. To drink from a beer bottle in another can be a way of displaying masculine rebel attitude, pretty much like how the way a cigarette is smoked also can be a way to show others who you are (or perhaps more accurately: who you try to be). Cultural belonging can clearly be discerned around the dining table. The way glances are exchanged, cups held and utensils used. When people emigrate absorbing new manners is part of integration in the new culture, abstaining from it is a way to hang on to the old.

The idea that the little finger is pointed out while drinking is by many seen as something quite posh and unmanly, ideas of the origin are many. One theory has it that the extended little finger has its origin in a syphilis ridden Paris in the late 19th century and early 20th century. The disease attack the nervous system and one of the symptoms is how the fine motoric movements of the fingers are lost. To be able to drink your absinth while holding the little finger out was thus a way to communicate you were disease free and thus a viable sexual partner.

If I would sum this article up I would perhaps conclude that table manners function as vehicles of messages, both conscious and unconscious. These messages can be of social standing, education, sexuality, political belonging, cultural background and much more.

A Story About a South African Wine – Haute Cabrière’s Iconic Blend Celebrates 20 Years

Text written by Christiana von Arnim

South Africa, Franschhoek; THE year 1994 saw South Africans emerge into freedom; a year for celebrating pioneers who had defied convention. It was then, 20 years ago, that Haute Cabrière’s cellar master Achim von Arnim became an accidental pioneer. Here in the vineyards of Franschhoek, he became the first to discover the blend of Chardonnay Pinot Noir, giving rise to the authentic South African icon wine. At its genesis, the Haute Cabrière Chardonnay Pinot Noir – a scintillating marriage of white and red varietals – represented true pioneering work by Von Arnim. The Burgundian varietals were barely on the fringes of South African wine. Now, two decades later, the esteemed white blend remains on top wine lists and continues to win hearts, thanks to a sustained and lifelong commitment by the Von Arnim family.

As in the past, the wine today bears on its label the name of its creator. This mantle now assumed by Achim von Arnim’s eldest son, Takuan, sees the wine’s singular heritage and philosophies borne into the future.

The wine’s success came about mostly by surprise and co-incidence, says Achim von Arnim. “We approached the bank to buy a small farm in Franschhoek and set out to produce an equivalent to Champagne from Chardonnay and Pinot Noir.” From its humble beginnings, demand for the Pierre Jourdan MCC range grew steadily, but suddenly hit a snag. “The 1994 crop was very small, which means the grapes ripen very early and rapidly,” recalls Von Arnim. “The base wine was 12% alcohol, making it unsuitable for the MCC – but we had to market our crop in order to bring in the money to re-pay our loan.” Unsure, but determined to make the best of the situation, Von Arnim went ahead and bottled this portion of wine as a still blend of 60% Chardonnay and 40% white Pinot Noir – which turned out to be glorious, and has forever remained an honored flag bearer of the South African wine industry. Combined in perfect proportions, the Chardonnay contributes elegance while the Pinot Noir brings intensity and richness.

Haute Cabrière

Haute Cabrière wine cellar.

At the time, Cape restaurateur Yvonne Romano of the Mediterranean Kitchen had put a challenge to wine producers: she sought a white wine to match her Bouillabaisse. “We took the challenge and, with a few friends, we enjoyed a magnificent lunch at the Mediterranean Kitchen,” recalls Von Arnim. “Our new blend was so beautiful and we were suddenly convinced that this wine held a lot of promise for the future.”

Significantly during that same year, the Von Arnim’s acquired their second property on the Franschhoek mountain pass, overlooking the valley. Here, to this day, Haute Cabrière – the home of Pierre Jourdan – grows its distinctive portfolio of wines on a simple philosophy: the balanced contributions of Sun, Soil, Vine and Man.

It is these four words that adorn a sundial erected at the entrance to Haute Cabrière’s exquisite subterranean restaurant and maturation cellar. They serve as a constant reminder: “We are still a family business and it has not been easy, but the only thing that saves us is personal commitment,” says Von Arnim. “Everything, including our wine, is about balance and respect.”

A perfect accompaniment to seafood and salad dishes, the Haute Cabrière Chardonnay Pinot Noir sells for around R85 a bottle and is available at all reputable wine stores, restaurants and from the estate.

Find out much more about this wine and the restaurant run by following this link: Cabriere



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